It’s personal

I wasn’t sure that I was going to share on the blog that we had a family crisis this week. I don’t tend to share our challenges as they are very personal but you may have noticed that Keith is no longer in the vacation photos because he had to leave to deal with a family issue. I’m enjoying the time with my sons and their families but we miss Keith terribly…. Especially me or so I thought until I read an email from my son to Keith thanking him for inviting him to spend our 25th anniversary with us. You may not realize it but Chris and Adam are my children from my first marriage … Keith is my 2nd husband but has always been a wonderful father to my boys. In addition to telling Keith how much he missed him and how much he appreciated this vacation, Chris wrote him …

I love you so much and am so LUCKY to have you as my dad

We’d planned this vacation for months and it’s been very hard to not have Keith with us but I love that my son is appreciative and acknowledges how much Keith has meant to him through the years.

13 thoughts on “It’s personal

  1. QuiltSue

    I’m sorry your plans got thrown into disarray, but one good thing to come out of it is the confirmation, if you needed it, of how your sons feel about Keith.

  2. Linda H

    Families are not always “biological” … it takes more than genes to make a good parent. I did know of their relationship but I have never thought of Keith as anything BUT their dad … it’s just wonderful to see that the boys realize what a gift Keith is 😉 Hope all works out well with the personal issue; we do NOT need to be privy to every aspect of your life …

  3. Penny G

    I am so sorry that Keith had to leave. Your son’s simple note spoke volumes. I am happy that you found Keith who obviously loved and accepted the whole family. 25 years is a long time in any marriage, but with the issues that could have been made if Keith had not welcomed his children in a way that they knew that were his, it is a much more significant length of time. The testament of the love in your family is apparent in pictures and activities like this vacation. I hope that Keith’s family issue will work itself out.

  4. SaraF

    Family comes first and your post really shows that. Keith is obviously the kind of man who sees family as a really important commitment. And isn’t it wonderful when the kids recognize that being a great parent is more about love and actions than it is about the biological ties.

  5. Linda in TX

    This is a very dear, touching post. Obviously you and Keith and both boys have been very successful in fostering family relationships. Those two little ones are vey lucky to have parents and grandparents like y’all. I understand not sharing everything but you brightened my morning with this story. Hugs all around!

  6. tirane93

    you are a very lucky woman (but i can see that you realize it already) and your family stories and pictures are always inspirational to the rest of us.

  7. Denise Porter

    My daughter was 18 months when her father and I split up. She is now happy to have “two Dads” – just more people to love her! It’s not a glass is half empty or half full thing — with Isobel, her glass is overflowing! It’s a wonderful perspective. So glad you’ve found a solid, lasting relationship with Keith… there ARE good guys out there! My husband didn’t have any kids so taking a toddler and a 7 yr old on at 52 was quite the adventure. But we’re still here and making memories … and that’s a good thing. Now, on to the Golden Wedding in 25 years time!

  8. Deb Praus

    I could not have said any better than Linda H.! Hugs to you through this difficult time!

  9. Tish McCaffrey

    Mary, You and your sons are very blessed to have such a wonderful man in your lives for 25 years. With God’s help you will have another 25 years. Congratulations.

  10. Cyndi Holguin

    I am so happy for you and your family. I think you all are marvelous. I pray you and Keith can celebrate somemore later.

  11. Sherrill

    My older son, who was from my first marriage, also thought the world of his dad (my 2nd) and considered him his dad as opposed to my ex. And my DH loved him like he was his own biological son! I think often that’s the exception rather than the rule and that’s sad.

  12. Marilyn

    Just one word about what your son wrote to Keith……..PRICELESS. Through the time I have been
    reading your blog it is so evident that you and Keith have done a wonderful job with your boys. You
    can see it in every picture in their eyes how much they love their family. Happy Anniversary to you
    both. I ‘m sure it was a great disapoinment for everyone that Keith had to leave,but it sure does say
    a lot about your husband and what a great relationship the two of you have. The bottom line to me
    is Family , no matter how they came to be.

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